Options
I am in an abusive relationship, but it’s not physical. He is verbally and emotionally abusive towards me, he gets physical on himself, punching/burning/threatening to kill himself, but then spins it around on me crying and begging for help. It makes me feel unsafe and afraid but I don’t know how to get out. The only time he’s threatened me was in these hypothetical situations he makes up to victimize himself, and said if I ever cheated he would kill me and the other person. His name is not on the lease, all the bills are in my name, but there is a loan that we are cosigned on that contributes to making me feel trapped because I can’t destroy my credit. And without him being in my home he wouldn’t have a place to live and that loan would not get paid for.
I want to get out but I don’t know how. I’ve read comments in others post about DV shelters or police, but I’m afraid that because he is not physical with me there is no case and nothing I can do. Being in this is slowing draining the life out of me but I am afraid. I just would like suggestions on what my potential options could be so I can try to plan an out.