Hi everyone,
It’s been a while since I received my admission letter for GIM, and I’ve already paid the first installment. I haven’t received any further communication regarding the next steps yet.
If anyone is already part of a GIM converts group on Telegram or WhatsApp, could you please add me? I can DM my details.
I’m 23F and I have this friend, she’s 21F, and we’ve always been really close. We met through a mutual friend and bonded instantly. I didn’t even expect the friendship to last at first, I thought it would be temporary, but it turned into something really genuine. We connected easily, shared a lot, and could talk for hours about anything. But for months, things have started to feel off. It all kind of began after a group trip we took with some mutual friends. Around the same time, I got into a relationship with another friend from that group. She already knew my boyfriend from before, though they were never close. Ever since I started dating him, something has changed between her and me. She and another friend started acting weird and, at times,even a bit hostile towards us. I confronted them a few times, and sometimes they’d acknowledge it but other times they wouldn’t. When I spoke to her personally, she said she had no problem with my relationship and that she was actually happy for me. That made me feel like maybe I was overthinking, so I tried to let it go. But the little things still bothered me. She and that other friend would make sarcastic remarks or small jabs at me and my boyfriend, like trying to make us feel guilty for prioritizing each other. The thing is, I never excluded anyone. In group settings, I always made sure to talk to everyone and stay involved. But the energy from her side just felt different. Despite that, I still cared about her a lot. I never wanted her to feel like a third wheel, so I tried even harder to make her feel included. Looking back, I think I started people-pleasing. I’d sit next to her, try to get her attention, start conversations, just to make sure she felt comfortable. But she’d often ignore me and after a while, it started feeling like I was being punished for being in a relationship. After that trip, things just went downhill. She started talking more to other people and slowly and very subtly started excluding me from things. It got to a point where she barely shared anything with me anymore, or include me in their calls or conversations even though I was always open with her. She ‘joked’ that she doesn’t tell us stuff because my boyfriend will tell others. That honestly made no sense, because my boyfriend and I don’t even have mutual friends we’d gossip with. It really hurt, because I’ve always been loyal to her. I’ve always been the kind of friend who stands by people, but she’s been spending more time with people who’ve been negative towards me. For example, there’s this guy who used to like me last year. He basically flirted with half our group, and everyone knows he’s not loyal. But she still talks to him like nothing happened, just because he’s a smooth talker. When the three of us are in the same space, she only talks to him and completely overlooks me. It’s so strange and honestly feels disloyal. Now, I don’t even feel like talking to her anymore. It feels like the friendship has quietly ended, and she probably doesn’t even realize how much it’s affected me. Still, I can’t stop thinking about it. I keep replaying everything every negative part she’s said or done, all the little moments that felt off. Sometimes I think maybe I’m being too negative or reading too much into things, but then again, the vibes don’t lie.