The Hardest Audhd romatic (?) reletionship problem. If you can solve it you should go college and got a dıploma as reletionship therapyst
So we are in our 20s. He is audhd (I dıdnt know when we were dating how much hard for his like dont understand the he didnt know how act)
we are now sure he is somewhere in graysexual. And I am demiromantic demisexual and sapioromantic sapiosexual.(That mean I need to trust , emotional connection more than him.)
and I have ptsd and paranoia for sure.
And now I know how he is feeling. and he know how I am feeling for sure. we are like soulmate. Somehow dont know , our inside worlds seem connected...
The problem is when he dont start speeking or messaging like simple things (good morning, supp love you etc.) I feel like I am fan of him and he is famous or something but in real life . I am thinking he doesnt care about me. If that person need to settle alarm his phone that means he care about me ? I mean if he need that , can we call it romantic? It seems more like a dont know "project that need work"
We both struggle with social reletionships. Even in just friends. Probably he things like "If we dont have problem why do I write "sup what are you doing? like I am on computer what should I write?"
He prefer writing on reddit about these problems seperated communitys, instead of talking face to face. Breakin my heards most like when I ask , he things he "I used to think about messaging you but forget" But you are in computer ya know just a seconds or something...
I dont expect he is with me 7/24 just you know basic things, Right.
Yea I am toxic in romatic reletionships I can jelous easly. But even I tryed so hard to talk him in real life and special messages and try to be kind and gratful. He is not trusting me for sure and I dont trust him enough.
so what should I do. ıf I dont talk to him he will forget about me for sure right? do I need a letter and post his adress like 1950s ? About our same friend enviroment we can say we are dating again and topic must be shut down because you know we are both adults.
But how can we trust ourselfs and eachother? We cant date back now in this situation. But I tryed so hard to forget maybe I should change collage? He doesnt want this toxic reletionship and mee to. So how can I move on this time? He is more mature than I am. He deserves to be happy even though without me.
So yea he can find someone else and I can too for sure. But like I said I dont know do it just make me happy? he doesnt love me? He is more than "my ex" for me You know like he is one of the turning point of my life.
So what should we do? What are we?