I M 20 have been w my girlfriend F 19 for nearly 2 years.
Most of this has been long distance as we are at 2 separate universities. I really can't do this distance anymore and feel I should end the relationship as it's starting to get to me, I tried to say I was struggling and she keeps just saying it will be okay and we will be okay but I really can't do this.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with her or me as in we get on really well the only thing that's painful is the distance, she's coming to visit in a week or so and I think I should end it but really don't know how as I worry she won't let it go, I don't want to say this over the phone as that would be really harsh but I want her to not be super surprised by it as she doesn't feel the same way, I want to explain how I do really like her I just can't do the distance, it's also her birthday a few days after she visits and it feels super harsh to say anything but I know I won't see her for another 5 weeks and honestly don't think I can I do that.
Any advice would be much appreciated I feel quite trapped, I know this will massively disappoint my parents and hers? Should I tell her this over the phone before she comes and then explain in person, it's my first proper break up and I know it's going to hurt but want to do it in the least way possible, if she's coming for a weekend is it best to do this as soon as she gets here or after a while I really don't know!? Also ideally would like to stay in touch but need to explain that in a reasonable way when doing it...?