u/Aggravating-Box-5346

My first M2M fantasy involved being seduced by an older man. At that point, I was a tender 19-year-old, and an "older" man would have been about twice my age. As I have aged, my older man fantasies have remained, and when I watch bi or gay porn, I prefer watching mature men, preferably 60 and over. I'm 63 now, so my fantasy older men are still about 15-20 years older than me.

Younger men can be cute and sexy, no doubt, but there's something about an older man with a dad bod who is enjoying his sexuality so freely and without shame or embarrassment with other older men.

I think older men are an underappreciated population of sexually attractive and virile men, and while it's sad to feel unappreciated, there are still those of us who find such men sexually desirable, and it doesn't matter how you identify yourself. I don't care if you're bi or gay, I don't care if it's because the wife won't give you the attention you deserve as a man. All I know is that I find older men so hot. I have been surprised on occasion to look at an older, nude man, notice that his cock is so beautiful, and my mouth waters, and I have a natural desire to bend over.

Although I have only had an oral experience with another man, and I keep telling myself that anal might occur in the future with the right partner, I have seen some men for whom I would love to pick up the soap. That was probably my biggest shock: wanting to be fucked by another man. Not just curious, but desiring to submit and be penetrated.

Anyway, for all of you older men out there who might be wondering where your fans are, we're all around. I'm not the lean, smooth, 23-year-old young man you may prefer, but I'd do my best to make you happy and keep you satisfied,

I've never had a glory hole experience, but I was wondering what the attraction to glory holes is? Is it the anonymity of who is on the other side?

About 15 years ago, as I was just beginning to get comfortable with my attraction to men, I posted an ad on Craigslist looking specifically for an older (60+) gay top who would be willing to seduce me, and teach me the pleasures of man love. I was traveling to Denver weekly, so I stayed in a hotel every time I went, which meant I could host without worrying about anyone walking in on us. Being married, getting caught was one of my concerns.

Surprisingly, I received a message from a gentleman who fit my preferences and was willing to take his time seducing me. Fortunately, he lived near where I worked, so I invited him to my room one night to see what would happen. I didn't know what to expect, but I wasn't especially nervous, either. He arrived, we spent some time talking, and he even gave me a foot massage, but that was all of the physical contact he would engage in, as he did not want to rush me into anything I wasn't yet ready for.

After he left, I wondered where this was going, so we stayed in touch. However, my job would take me to other locations for several weeks at a time, so actually spending time together could be problematic. We exchanged messages frequently to keep the connection, however.

At this point, I wish I could say that things developed, but I overthought things and chickened out. He made a passing comment that excited me and scared me, but not for safety reasons. So here I was engaging with a single, 65-year-old gay top, who lived alone, could host, and was interested in seducing this 48-year-old, gay curious, married man. What did he say that excited me and scared me? He said, "Once we've gotten to know each other better, maybe you could come stay with me occasionally instead of staying in a hotel all the time."

Staying with another man did not scare me. I took it in stride, but I started imagining what that might be like. The picture that entered my mind was me with my head down on the bed, my ass up in the air, and him behind me, penetrating me. While in and of itself, that wasn't a scary proposition, what scared me was that in my fantasy, I was also moaning like a bitch in heat and begging for his cock. Although I wanted the experience, I wasn't ready to admit that I enjoyed what I was fantasizing about, and I felt intimidated and overwhelmed by the thought of that level of surrender. Besides, I was still in my "being discreet means we can never be seen in public together" phase because I felt that, somehow, everyone would know if we were seen together. I realized that he would probably have gay friends that I would probably meet eventually, and I wasn't convinced that I would resist attraction and attention from them, if there was any. Once I started thinking like that, I slowly backed away until we lost track of one another.

Now, at this point, I am much more comfortable and accepting of my sexuality, but unfortunately, it is too late to recover that lost opportunity. I can't say for certain what would have happened if I had not overthought it. However, I do think I missed out on an opportunity to experience men in a way that not many men do. Since I tend to prefer older gay men, to this day, I still think of missing out on the chance to have several friendships with the type of men that I find sexually appealing.

Hello beautiful men,

I'm pretty sure this has been discussed before, but does anyone else find that their desires are cyclical? Although I prefer women, I have sexual desires regarding men, and I was able to finally admit my bisexuality. Once I got past that, I was able to describe my desires about men for what they were: homosexual. I do not consider myself to be gay, but my desires can certainly and legitimately be described as being gay.

Now, my question is, does anyone find their gay desires to decline for a while, then return later? For example, most of last year, I was fully on board with my bisexuality to the point where I felt I was coming to prefer men over women. For the past six months or so, those desires have declined to almost nonexistence. I'm still interested in men, but not as strongly as I felt last year. I still enjoy gay and bi porn, but that intensity isn't there at the moment. I'm pretty sure that when those desires return as they always do, I'll be flaming, but at the moment, I feel more like an average, lame straight guy of 63.

Anyone else have a similar experience?