Hello,
To explain my situation:
My Mother and Father divorced when I was 3, both remarried and I have two half siblings on each side. (Ages: 20(m), 18(m), 9(f), 4(f)). I am 26. Even though I love all of them, there are some issues which come up for me, due to this situation. I feel like neither of the families thinks of the fact, that I have two families. Especially my stepmother mentioned that I could visit more often to establish a stronger bond with my half sisters. When I was younger my mother also wanted me to play with my halfbrothers more. I have a very strong connection with my dad and my mom and neither of my step parents are bad people per se. But they are just each so focused on their own life and problems and have this idealistic view that all their children should get along. I feel anger about having no one who understands my situation completely. I like spending time with my half siblings, but it annoys me so much that my dad doesn’t think about the fact, that I grew up with two much younger siblings already. I also feel it’s much harder for my younger half sisters to understand that I am an adult, since I am not their aunt but their sister. I also feel like my dad doesn‘t make an effort to explain this fact to them at all. I also moved to a closer city (to my dad) for my master recently and since then they think I should visit them more often now. I also sometimes feel guilty for not taking better care of my half brothers, since one of them faced a few issues the last years. I manage my life relatively well on my own, but I feel like my parents just take that for granted.
I just want to use this platform to rant and maybe find other people in a similar situation who can relate or have some advice how to best deal with this situation?