How do folks deal with the straight friendships you invested in, in your twenties, vanishing (with some limited exceptions) as soon as they start having kids (now some gay couples, too!)
Regretting not putting any energy into building friendships with LGBT folks in my twenties, largely because when I had tried to build friendships with gay folks my age, they'd then end up moving away six months later, or we just had nothing i common beyond "gay".
Now my partner and I are heading into our 40's, live in the burbs, of a city with a not very big or vibrant gay scene, and the few gay friends we have, it feels like being the additional friends to established groups.
It feels like we're not allowed to say that "kids ruin everything", because I'm genuinely happy for my friends building the families they want... but "kids ruin everything".