u/AfterEcho8548

This guy who was in my brothers yr in highschool started replying to my stories on insta. (I actually noticed him in primary school and always thought he was so cute). We are very similar, and had good convos. At first he would take hours to respond etc. we had good banter etc. he was expressing interest in me but would make these dirty jokes sometimes nothing too crazy but I set the boundary that I didn’t like it. (Made me uncomfortable) we get along rly well and connect helping eachother and expressing interest. He gives me a couple compliments and invites me over. (I couldn’t go). I go through his following because I wanted to see if he followed any only fans ppl because I wanted to stop getting invested if he did. He ended up having a lot of OF ppl he followed and liked pics of. I messaged him and said I knew abt it and that I was dissapointed. He expressed embaressment and said he was going to delete them. He deleted some but not all. I said this. Idk if it was on purpose or a mistake. He deleted the rest. Anyways I mentioned that I don’t engage in hookup culture and I can’t be w someone who does. He said one day that I’ll see if he snores if I ever sleep w him. In the context of what we were saying it didn’t rly make sense and sounded like an excuse to see if I’d suggest having a sleepover (fk) idk. Anyways I invite him over we have the absolute best time I’m making him laugh non stop we cuddle and he confesses he was shaking on his way over because he was so nervous because he really likes me. We cuddle he ends up sleeping over. He leaves we kiss and are flirty also the entire night he was saying he would cook for me, visit me overseas etc. next day I realise he left his wallet. I looked inside to find that he had a condom in there. I’m not attracted to guys who are easy and carry condoms around and are ok sleeping with randoms so it was quite heartbreaking considering I suppress my emotions and I really opened up to him. Was he coming over expecting to get laid? Does he actually care for me or did I make the wrong choice in ghosting him after I gave his wallet back?