I am a married man, no kids. I had a long term girlfriend before marriage but it didn't work out because she is muslim and I am Hindu. She was not able to convince her parents. I eventually stopped messaging her, even though she was constantly messaging me, because I didn't want to ruin her marriage. She also stopped after a while.
I got married to someone who is very good, gets along with my mother and takes care of my likings, as do I.
Only problem is - sex. I have a very high libido. My ex and I use to fuck like rabbits. But wife has very low libido, almost nil. We are trying for kids, but the sex has become a task with her. She wants me to cum within 5 mins and normally it takes me more time. It is causing undue pressure on me to just "do the deed". I am not enjoying it at all.
Now recently, while drunk, I liked one of my ex's status. She messaged me after that asking how I was. One thing led to other and we ended up sexting. She even asked question like "do you still want to fuck me?" And "do you picture me while fucking your wife?". I told her I deleted all her nudes and sex tapes to which she said, I could have kept them. Now, the horniness in me led to this sexting.
After the Hangover, I have been feeling extremely guilty. I am not sure what to do now. Ex is telling that after few days, she will be visiting my city and hinted me that we can still be fwb and she won't judge me for it. She also told if I am not getting satisfied sexually, there's nothing wrong in doing the deed outside. She is very safe and would never disclose these to my wife.
Now,
should I stay away from ex?
should I tell my wife these all things happened?
should I just got with flow and get into fwb situation?
The situation is blowing my mind and would like some honest perspective.
Tldr - married guy sexted with ex, she wants more. Unsure what to do.