u/After-Comedian-1408

I am a woman from another Muslim country and I met the Moroccan in a western country. Both of us are settled here. He’s accomplished 37 and never married before, according to him he was busy establishing himself. Is it common for people there to be single until 37? What are berbers like? I find him a bit dry at times and I feel he’s checking boxes in his life. He jumped straight to marriage topics and is eggar to marry soon ( not necessarily to me as we are not there yet). This is a bit scary for me as I feel this loosely translates into I can just marry anyone and then they will mould for me. I really want to understand what are berbers like and if some advice on how should I approach this?

I am talking to this guy and he’s nice and respectful. In fact he patiently answered my questions where I have noticed most men either become defensive or dismissive. However, it feels like I am interviewing this guy. He asks me questions but mostly when I ask him something he goes how about you? I feel he mostly answer in a way that it doesn’t continue the conversation and I have to carry the burden. He responds quickly in fact if he’ll tell me he’s busy until 8:30 I will have a text from him at 8:31. But its mostly about him and his work and I carry the conversation. Is this normal for guys? Honestly I am yet to meet a men who is as responsive and respectful like him but also I generally see them carrying conversation. I cant decide what to make of this guy?

edit: I jumped the guns. He just texted me.

I met someone on Muzz, he was nice asked for my number and we chatted all day on WhatsApp. He was very responsive. I must agree that the chat was too intense as it was strictly about marriage, values, expectations and children. But he was the one who initiated and I think I picked up the vibe. I have to say that he was very patient and nice in responding. We said good bye and then next day no message from him. This is the guy who was texting constantly, he teaches and he sent me texts within a minute his class finished. Now silence. I didn’t text him because I felt I should wait for his interest. What do I make of this?

I am sorry if this isnt relevant. I am interested in a lecturer and I want to know what it is like to be married to one? I am an accountant by profession and Masters degree holder with a lot of confidence and ability to talk on several topics. He’s a Phd who talks a lot about his work. I like him and I also like listening to his work as I am interested in that topic. However, I often feel that all he talks about is work and I am a little concerned if work is going to be his top priority always and if he will always be busy? He always text me right after his lectures and is responsive. However, I am an emotional person and I am afraid id this is going to be right fit for me. If I’ll start to invest more emotionally I dont think I will be able to leave so I want to know other people’s experiences.