We been together for 4/5 years now and never really had any issues between us. But recently I’ve been nagging him about being more expressive about his love towards me, like we don’t go on dates, he doesn’t by flowers, asking for a massage is off the table etc… we sortve just be bored together. Which doesn’t bother me too much but slowly I feel like the relationship just isn’t going anywhere.
My boyfriend said to be today just before 6am that we need to talk after we’ve finished work. Obviously I ask what about and he said that I don’t look at him the same way. Before I can ask him anymore he’s already left for work. So I message him.
“What do we need to talk about”
Him: “just a few things in my mind”
“You’re making me nervous, what things?”
He basically says that he struggled sleeping thinking about “things and us” but I shouldn’t worry and get some rest before work and that’s it’s nothing I need to worry about” I do not like the sound of this and tell him that I feel like he’s gonna end things between us. His response to this was ‘why would I do that, I’m stuck with you. Don’t get excited’
So I reply why would I get excited? And his response is “idk I just feel you would be at the moment” and my response to that is “??? Tf” and he then says he’s just messing and that should go sleep, he will chat later ‘I love you’. And my head racing at this point “I feel like you’re not just messing” and his response to that was ‘I was but now you’re making me feel otherwise’
How???
He said that I’ve been acting different lately and that even though he struggles to read me, my emotions are very clear and that we will talk later ‘I love you’.
I didn’t really know what to say to this and I leave the message open for a few minutes… he then types “”I love you too”” because I didn’t reply to him…
Idk I just have this horrible feeling that things are gonna fall apart as soon as I’m home from work and I just can’t deal with this right now… I just feel under appreciated all I wanted from him was to show more affection but it’s been so long since I felt it maybe he is right and I don’t wanna be int he relationship anymore. I just don’t know what do..