Eloping in a few days!
We have planned a beach wedding in a few days. Just us and children. When my SO called JNMIL she begged to come stay with us for the week and child excitedly told her about getting married. (We already agreed NO family just because we don’t want her there). She’s reached out 2 more times asking about staying and even told siblings she’s coming.
So far SO has set firm boundaries but the what ifs are playing in my head. What if she continues to push? What if she suddenly just shows up?
Boundaries have always been an issue with her. Everything is all about her all the time. We’ve covered vacations for her in the past only for her to invite 3 more people. Since then vacations have stopped with her. Especially since she doesn’t contribute a dime even for gas. SO has come a long way in seeing issues with JNMIL but the guilt tripping eventually may let SO guard come down again.
My SO hasn’t even talked to JNMIL in months until a few days ago to let her know about the elopement. Now I wish it could have waited until after because his whole family has reached out to congratulate and I’m afraid she will let the world know before we are ready. I hate that I feel this way. Life is just so much more peaceful without her in it.
I will lose my ever loving mind if she comes.
I really want my mom there but it’s not worth the jealous and snide comments so we just said no family.
Edit: getting married in a few days. Not eloping since she now knows