It all started a week ago, when i (F21) was talking to a friend of mine (M20) who we are going to call "Aiden", and he told me he hanged out with a girl and as the post's title states, is younger than him (F17).
I, as a friend of his for 5 years, said to him that according to the law, it is wrong, immoral, and that he shouldn't want to make it out with her because she is on high school, he is on university, and he is an adult, not a teenager like her. I wanted him to turn to his senses and listen to me because that's not the first time i discuss with him because he likes girls with that age gap from his.
He said to me that despite whatever i thought about his choices, he would keep making them the way he thought it was best, because he feels bad for everyone having a relationship and he don't, intending that he wasn't going to listen to my words, so i said with all the words i could to think him listen to me: "It's simple bro, if you want to date someone, just go after one who is not a minor😉".
I don't know if only this was what triggered him the most for the rest of the story...but after that, he said to me he didn't want to talk about that anymore and just enjoy the day forgetting all we talked through the other night, because a day later, i was going to have a pichnic with some friends i called, and he was one of the people i called, so he wanted to settle down to not ruin everything...but as you can expect, i'm writing because it did.
Because of our intimacy, it is very common for we to curse at each other with heavy insults, but then i said something while i was getting a beer for everyone and i cursed something to everyone (i really don't remember what) and Aiden called me a "bitch" in a comedic tone as he always does with every cursing he throws when we hang out, but i felt the way and the context he said was off, and that it was because of what we discussed early, i'm 100% sure he was still mad at me for everything we discussed early on.
After the pichnic, we all (10 people) went to my house, and Aiden was the """last""" one to leave, the only 2 persons left besides him were my boyfriend and another friend, but after what Aiden said that shit to me, we planned to encourage him to leave the house saying it was easier for me to not climb the stairs up again just to get down with him, and so we did. We waited for his ride on the entrance and when i opened the door, he tried to hug me, not even realizing or remembering that what he said hurted me, so i just looked at him while the person who was on his car waited for him and said "Go...you called me a bitch, right?", and he just walked away saying a "sorry" very quick.
This wasn't the first time i confronted him for something like this, but it was the first time he fought back and we had a conflict of this proportions over disagreedments of morality and ethics.
He apologized 2 hours later apparently very regreted of what he said, but i felt we couldn't keep the relationship for now because of all the tension between us, so i still didn't answer, stopped talking to him and took him off from friend groups because it doesn't make sense to keep him while just the two of us talk this through.