Have you seen the Tik Tok trend?
Has anyone else seen the rise of videos saying “being a parent with BPD is insane because wdym my child causes me to split”
And in the comments it’s being defended as acceptable “because they can’t help it” and someone commented “child = the ultimate favorite person” with dozens of likes on it.
I’m appalled! Fp is a very bad thing and hard to deal with as an adult, I can’t imagine being a child and dependent on that person as well.
Lots of people defending and justifying poor behavior toward their kids and others saying they shouldn’t post that because it “demonises the disorder” and “makes people not want to understand them” when it should be “get help” and “this isn’t okay”, not “oh no people will see me for who I am and I can’t play victim”
It confirmed I was right to walk away from my ex w bpd, I was her fp and she put me through hell and im glad we never moved in together. She has kids, so do I.
Thankfully mine were never exposed to her wrath directly, though she said nasty things about them and I when I left, even made fun of my child’s special needs. She hid that side of her well, even from her friends and family and seeing the Tik Tok comments it seems quite common.
And yes not all are that way. But too many are.