Am I the problem????
have been with my husband for 9 years, and I had a great relationship with his family in the beginning. However, as the years went by I began to feel more tension with his family. He’s a mama’s boy, and has done everything for her and his entire family. I’ve always tried to push it aside and not say anything, but over the years they’ve become more intense and crossing boundaries. I’ve explained my boundaries to him countless times, but he just doesn’t understand or bother to listen. I’m not asking him to pick sides at all, but to at least understand where I’m coming from. I wish he could see what they are like from an outside perspective because I always come across as the bad person. But now I absolutely hate my husband’s family and it’s almost to the point where I’m contemplating divorce. My MIL has no boundaries. She would shows up at my house uninvited all the time, I usually let it slide but it’s getting to the point that I can’t no longer take it! When she’s here she doesn’t respect our house rules at all, let alone always make a mess and NEVER clean after herself!! And our house is always organized and clean by me most of the time. In my husband’s defense is “oh she’s just too old it’s ok”?!?! But yet doesn’t even help with the cleaning or anything at all. I can’t even set boundaries because my husband takes her side all the time. His whole family is also INCREDIBLY judgmental and racist. I tell my husband this is hurtful, and he always defends them: “they don’t mean it like that.” I’m sorry, but yes, they do. They knows exactly what they’re saying. I honestly don’t know how much longer I can take this. I feel trapped & my life is miserable. i really can't do it anymore. I've tried my hardest not to get annoyed with all the remarks and I've tried to not take it to heart but it’s just so hard. Am I overthinking, overreacting?? Correct me if I’m at wrong because that’s what my husband said to me is that I’m too much and overreacting.