I went on a date recently and my friend was constantly messaging me like 10 messages in a row and asking for updates, telling me what to do, and even tried calling me while I was there. It felt intrusive but I kind of went along with it in the moment. I am fairly new to this so I had loads to process.
Later that same night, she was pushing me to come meet her, calling me multiple times, saying she “needed to hear everything” and just generally being intense.
Now she’s been on a date herself. I sent a message saying I hoped her date went well and she didn’t reply for over 24 hours which is fine. I wanted to do my part and I would never invade someone’s date or experience.
For context I am newly out since August so I am still processing a lot and figuring things out. I also think I might have feelings for my friend which is making everything feel more confusing even though I am not ready for a relationship.
It’s starting to feel like a double standard.