Me and my ex have a 2yo and a 4yo, we both work full-time so they usually attend daycare/prek. We have 50/50 custody.
School attendance at their age is not compulsory and I do think it is great if parents can spend extra quality time with the kids throughout the week. So, if my work allows, I will take them for a day trip mid-week, and when this happens I communicate with the school and I also drop my ex a text to let him know like “Hey kids will not go to school today but not sick, all good” something like this. Or I will use common whatsapp groups where he is in to tell the teachers.
The thing is, when he does take the day off with the kids and they do not attend school he doesn't let me know.
Where we live we have had 2 major incidents in the past year when natural disasters cut off all communications for days and destroyed several homes and businesses, some deaths as well.
I feel anxious not knowing if the children are at school or not, am I overreacting if I ask him to let me know when he doesnt take them to school? Is this something you would consider updating the parenting plan over?