u/Affectionate-Yam-113

I used to be a relatively social guy, had lots of friends and people inviting me to things, nothing crazy but I also always had antisocial tendencies.

Well after school I moved to a different country for work and thats when my lonliness/antisocialness completely took over. I started smoking weed and got addicted to that and video games. My days were fully devoid of substance and I would only find joy in closing myself in my tiny apartment and playing games.

I hated that situation, I felt like I was wasting away but it was so hard to get out of, since somehow it made me feel comfort and isolated from the world.

Well fast forward a few years now, I got an amazing girlfriend, super motivated and accomplished, who hates smoking and has pushed me to quit, which I have, even though I do occasionally still smoke, maybe 2-3 times every couple months, but nothing compared to what I was doing before.

And even though I feel I should be out of it, I feel like my addiction still has a full grip on me, even though I dont even do it anymore it seems like I was rewired to have no motivation for anything else and to just want to hide myself and play games, and that's closing me off from people and friends I have here. Like even though my life has completely changed, it feels like it still has full control of me and affecting my decisions/happiness.

And thats what I'm asking for help with, and writing this here cause I imagine there's more guys that are going/went through this. How do you fight it, what do I have to do to reset that mindset? Has anyone managed to get out of this and what helped?