I‘m not saying he‘s bad at it in general, different people like different things. I‘ve been with this guy a few times, and he‘s really into going down on me, but I can‘t orgasm from it and don‘t enjoy it physically. I find it difficult to relax and orgasm with new people anyway, but it‘s not that I don‘t like oral, it‘s just that I don‘t like the way he does it. I still “let“ him do it since he‘s very enthusiastic about it, and it‘s fun for me to see him enjoy it, but it doesn‘t satisfy me. This wouldn‘t be a big problem, I could just tell him what to change / we could try it differently, but I have no idea how to bring it up now. The issue is that we‘ve been intimate a few times already, and I faked an orgasm when he went down on me, pretended to really like it and told him he‘s doing well. In hindsight I‘m aware this was stupid, I just didn‘t want to ruin the mood / make him feel bad, especially since he was self-conscious about doing it right already and I wanted to praise him (which wasn‘t the way to go about this, I know). We also talked about faking orgasms and how silly it is, that communication is important, and so on. But talking about it is different from actually addressing this problem.
So my question is: how do I bring it up now without hurting him, and ideally without telling him about the fake orgasms? Thank you for your help dear strangers, have a lovely day < 3