Hi everyone, I usually don’t post on reddit but I’ve got to ask this to someone and I feel like anonymously on the web would be best.
So I (24M) broke up with a long time partner time ago, now just started seeing a girl (23F) for a couple of weeks and just yesterday we did the deed for the first time. It was disappointing. The sex was all off, I didn’t feel much of it and I feel like she didn’t enjoy it either. At some point we just agreed to stop.
Now, I’ve slept around for a period of my life and this never happened to me. I’ve been thinking of the reasons it could’ve went wrong and it breaks down to:
- Using a condom (I’m not used to it anymore because I wasn’t using one in my past relationship)
- Anatomical incompatibility (?) if that’s a thing.
- Not knowing the other’s body yet?
To top all of it off, I don’t think she’s got much experience with sex based on the lack of trying/moving from her part, so maybe it could be a factor? I don’t know.
We’ve been spending a good deal of time together and enjoying each other’s company, so it really bothered me to discover the sex between us being so bad. The question is: can it get better in the future or is it doomed? Is there a reason why it was this bad? And if there is, can I do something to fix this?