u/Aerosolcan25

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Hi guys. I'm 24 FTM and as I said in the title I regret coming out.

My situation is this: I can't take testosterone for medical reasons and my transition is not taken seriously by anyone.

I'm waiting to get top surgery and a partial hysterectomy in the next few months with public healthcare (I'm Italian), and in the meantime, my way of looking masculine only consists in clothes and hair.

I have a ridiculous baby face, and I either pass as a 14 years old boy or a masculine teenage girl, and it's making me insane.

My family treats my situation as a phase, and my lifelong friends often missgender me by accident.

I'm unable to socialize with people my age because I literally look like a kid, and with time I'm getting progressively lonely.

Every time those things happen my disphoria gets worse than when I was in the closet.

When I was living as a woman, I used to feel like I was wearing a mask and interpreting a character, but at least I felt safe from the world and the judgement. I had a social life consistent with my age and life path, I had romance, I was charismatic. Now I'm vulnerable and constantly frown upon. My quality of life drastically decreased. Things like getting a job and making errands are possible only by "girl-moding"

From a disphoria stand point, I can't wait for my surgery, but from a realistic view of how my life looks now, I'm not a functioning human anymore.

I'm being myself, but myself is not tailored for this world.

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u/Aerosolcan25 — 10 days ago

Hi, so, I have this "symptom". For context: my complexion and heritage is white European.

My skin is extremely dry, to the point that if I shower more than once every three days, it gets red and covered in pimples. It doesn't smell nor sweats, and wearing deodorant is optional. I tried different products and different showers, but the matter persists. My hair is the same: I wash it every 5 days, otherwise it turns dry and damaged.

It doesn't cause me any discomfort, except that when I say this I get called unhygenic (I wash my intimate parts daily tho).

Do any of you relate?

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u/Aerosolcan25 — 11 days ago