u/Adventurous_Act6679

I’ve been a stay at home mom for a while. My husband and I are divorcing, we both hate each other, he’s not helping literally at all with the kids or financially. I have to start all over and im just kind of lost. It’s kind of a short time frame, but my credit is shit, I have to find a job, I have to find a home, I have to find child care.. I don’t have any out side support, which I know it’s all my responsibility and no one else’s, but even just having someone to talk to is really all I want. Does any one have any advice? If you had to do this, how did you do it?

My husband and I split. We have a 2 year old and a one year old. I’ve been a stay at home mom and all of a sudden he decides to get a girl friend and tells me he wants a divorce. I am trying to figure out a job, a new home, etc to immediately get the kids into a stable environment as I know their world is about to get shaky. I am their 24/7 care taker. He plays with them about 15 minutes every other day and that’s as far as it goes. Once in a while he will give a bath, but there’s never soap or shampoo involved. I do literally everything. So while I am trying to get all of this stuff figured out, go do job interviews etc.. he’s going on hiking trips and ramming himself up his new girlfriends ass. I don’t have a support system. I don’t have day care. So I literally can not do anything right now as he will not help watch the kids. I hate this man. Genuinely hate everything about him. I am trying so hard to heal from the recognition we are so easily replaceable and disposable but i can not stop going off on this man. He is pretty much relinquishing all responsibility of them and their well being on me, which is fine. I love my kids so deeply and will always make sure they are in an environment where they are loved and wanted. But holy fuck all of this is so hard. On top of all of this he just filed a custody hearing to fight for 50/50 simply so his new girlfriend of less than a month ( who he has already cheated on btw ) can be their caretaker while he works and sleeps ( works over nights )

Like how tf do I do this