My sister is too much
So I recently got married last year September 2025. My sister was my maid of honor when we decided to get married back in Feb 2025. We looked at wedding dresses and she was doing what MOH do. And I picked a date for the wedding originally I wanted September 6th for the wedding because it was my great grandmothers birthday. Who passed 10 years ago but they didn’t have that date available anymore so I picked the next available weekend in September 2025 so I picked September 20th. I inform the family and my sister told me “but I have plans for that weekend!” I said but that’s all they had available and I wanted my wedding in September. So I asked her “what plans you have that weekend?” Btw we we still in February, what could you have planned so far from now? She would not tell me. I said if it was something super important then I understand but then I found out it was a family reunion for her boyfriend (who she only knew for 2 months so far in Feb) and I was like really? You’re gonna miss my wedding for your bf family reunion? I got so mad. I said okay whatever still help me out as the MOH temporarily and she said I can do the bridal shower for you.
So bridal shower was August 30th, it was literally the week before she started feeling guilty I guess, asking me to change the date of the wedding because she didn’t want to miss it. I said the Venue is already booked up for the rest of the year so I can’t. She tells me to she wants to come to the wedding. So I said “then don’t go to the family reunion for your 7 month relationship boyfriend” she did not like that. I told her my best friend whose husband just had an accident with his injured arm is still coming to my wedding but she can’t because of her bf boyfriend? My bbf is still coming” she did not like that I said that so she said I don’t want to be your MOH anymore at all she cancelled everything that was planned and f’ed up my bridal shower. I was sooo disappointed in her approach to me. IM NOT GONNA RESCHEDULE MY WEDDING TO FIT YOUR SCHEDULE. So she misses my wedding and hasn’t talk to me since then. I wished her happy birthday when it came around this year no response. I told her we need to talk. No response…I’m literally having a baby and she hasn’t said anything! No congratulations, hasn’t sent anything for her nephew who is two since she stop talking to me. Nothing for the baby when she has done it before for her nephew who is 2 right now. Didn’t send anything for his birthday. Like I understand you’re not talking to me but your nephews didn’t do anything to you. She still sends things to her other niece and nephew from my brother.
But what really upsets me is…the guy she is with has 4 different baby mommas and she can’t get pregnant because she has endometriosis. So she makes it up by being a great aunt to her nieces and nephews. The man has a 9 year old son and the youngest is like 10 months old. And she chose some deadbeat father (who left his pregnant gf at the time for her) to miss my wedding for a family reunion for him? And is mad at me for not having her priority straight when it comes to family?
My hubby says she has narcissistic traits and I agree. My mother says you have to walk on eggshells around her and the has thin skin. Cause she has low self esteem! My mother also said I’m the only one who stands up to her when she pulls her bullshit. My brother says I shouldn’t have said that my bbf and her husband was still coming to the wedding even though he had a broken wrist from work, so he understands why she got mad but mad enough to say f this to your sister bridal shower and stop talking to her and her nephew for months now?
No they need to hold her accountable and when I mention it. It’s like NO ONE wants to get on her bad side so they don’t say anything. I want to tell her off but I keep my mouth shut I wanna see how long she can keep this up.
My hubby also thinks she jealous because I got married and had kids and I’m younger sibling than her by 10 years so she feels left behind. So the way for her to keep control somehow is to cut me off.