u/AdventurousSyrup2580

Hi,

I'm considering a surgical procedure to restore my tummy to normal after giving birth to a large baby. The birth of my child caused a range of anatomical health problems, which have caused me chronic pain, even after having surgery to rectify some of them. This was actually what brought me to Buddhism in the first place.

I'm active and fit, but I feel like my tummy doesn't reflect this, because of what I've been through with childbirth. A part of me strongly feels that it's only fair that I address my discontent with the shape of my tummy, given what nature has put me through. I have the means to rectify it, but it feels "un-Buddhist" to not accept my tummy as it is.

On the one hand, I realise I'm clinging to the idea of what a fit person should look like, i.e. flat tummy. In other words, I'm clinging to an identity. On the other hand, the rational part of me feels that if you have a problem that has a solution, what's wrong with fixing it?

Is it against Buddhist philosophy to fix it, if it's bothering you? Or is the fact that it's bothering you the problem and something to work on?

Thanks for your thoughts.

I am 43 yo and had posterior vaginal repair 1.5 years ago. The repair hasn't failed, or at least hadn't at the time of my 12 month review (I'm getting it checked by a GP and a PFP soon). But I'm still uncomfortable. I'm doing everything to avoid constipation, so I don't think it's that. It feels very uncomfortable when I wear tight clothing. Sex feels fine after the initial discomfort.

Does anyone else still have discomfort this long past surgery?

Just wondering if anyone with a history of prolapse or prolapse repair surgery can let me know how they feel after a TT?

I've had a rectocele repair and I still feel uncomfortable 1.5 years post-op. I'd like to have my Diastasis Recti fixed, but I'm worried the increased pressure will make things worse.

If you have a similar surgical history or have a prolapse, I'd appreciate if you could share your experience. Thanks 🙏🏻