Need help with brother going through puberty
Hi everyone, I need help. I’m desperate for help for not just my own emotions but also my parents most importantly my dad.
I have a 13 year old brother that was diagnosed with Autism at age 2. My parents have been proactive about putting in therapy and getting the services he needs. With the recent insurance cuts, my brother does not qualify for any sort of therapy outside of the couple of hours they give him at his public school. Now that he is 13, going through puberty, getting urges, things have been very uncomfortable. There is honestly a history inappropriate behaviors my parents have ignored that I think have allowed what is happening happen.
For about a year now maybe more, my brother has done inappropriate things to animals/pets. I will name some events that happen frequently: he has put his fingers in our pets butts and make dogs hump him. He would do this hidden but yesterday he got on all 4s and would call a guest’s dog to go on top of him and hump in front of my dad and his guests. MY DAD DID NOTHING. The guests left and I only know this because someone else told me.
My brother also only hugs me or is nice to me when I wear a skirt or dress. He will even ask me to wear a skirt or dress for him. I wore a skirt yesterday around him and I caught him having a dog hump in the woods not too far away from where I was standing.
I’m uncomfortable. I have children and I’m terrified of my brother doing something to them. My parents aren’t doing anything, I’ve told my mom about these issues and nothing is done. I’m about to have to cut off my family which is very difficult. But I want something better for my brother. I care about him also. Please help me with any advice. I really needed to vent and I really really need help.
I’m also sure my dad is depressed. He has been for a couple years now…even told me I’m the one that stopped him from unaliving himself last year. Seeing his son behaving like this obviously doesn’t help and I don’t think my dad knows how to deal with this which is why it’s being ignored.
We are Hispanic so our culture is has a very hard time accepting any sort of disability.