u/Adventurous-Drag8216

Being a long term sub means understanding the old way and the new way. I get the feeling from what I've seen that some feel that you are either in or you're out, but I don't think this needs to be binary. I struggle often; hell I'm struggling this week but that doesn't mean I can't go from being out to being in. Likewise someone can leave and not be shamed for it, and come back and not be a fake sub. Because someone is struggling doesn't make every cry for help a bait post, although there are a lot of those too. Communication is important on both sides. Dommes if it seems too good to be true, it probably is. Subs if you feel at ANY POINT you're needing to back out... communicate and do it instead of stringing her along and ghosting. Thanks for attending my TedTalk.

As someone who has been on a break (though with difficulty) I want to point a few things out. It's hard to stay away. These urges never really go away and often times you feel like you're out of control. My suggestion as always is to avoid looking at profiles. I enjoy chatting with dommes and so so regularly but you can have some control of the conversation. Once you're at a stage where you're begging your pretty much done for. Try to keep some control.

Not very often that I feel like I'm worn down but as John Coffey says in the Green Mile... I'm tired boss. I don't think there's more sexual triggers around but it feels like I notice them more and I've been feeling more inclined to the seduction I come across even though I know it's not a good idea. I'm usually pretty good at getting control of this but it's much harder now than it used to be.