It took 12 years, but now she talks dirty all the time in bed and likes it
I’ve been in a pretty vanilla but consistent and active sexual relationship with my wife for the past 12 years of marriage. We were both virgins and just new to everything when we were first married. We are definitely experienced now, but just have kept it simple. I’ve always loved the idea of dirty talk with my wife. Like all the words. Visual and auditory stimulation are really important for me.
I have expressed to her that I love it so much because we don’t swear in our regular lives, and so when we swear in our bedroom, it becomes our secret language of desire, and shows true trust and vulnerability. Plus, the taboo and the safety of it is massively arousing to me. She didn’t really latch on to the idea of talking dirty until recently because she said it felt insincere or put on. So I didn’t really push it because I don’t ever want to coerce or make her feel uncomfortable. She has said that she does not mind at all if I talk dirty to her during sex, but she has not wanted to join. So sometimes when I’m feeling super turned on, I will be a little more explicit with her like describe to her what I’m gonna do to her etc. Over the past 4 years or so, she has begun to reciprocate and it’s been quite amazing.
Last week she screamed “fuck me harder baby!” a bunch of times in a row in the middle of sex, and I have never heard her say that before. I pretty much came instantly. Lol. She’s done it a few times since and added other soft language, and I’m like constantly turned on for her. Probably the hottest thing ever. That’s the story of how the Stake Primary President began swearing more during sex.