I (M) went on my first ever date two days ago with a girl I matched with on Hinge. We met for coffee and churros, and overall it went really well.
Personality-wise, we clicked surprisingly easily. Conversation flowed, there was some light flirting/banter, and I felt comfortable pretty quickly, which was unexpected for a first date. From what I could tell, she also seemed to enjoy it, especially compared to her previous dating experience where she said the other guy came across as cold and uninterested.
The main issue I’m stuck on is physical attraction. She’s a really nice person and I don’t want this to come across as shallow, but she’s not really my usual type physically (she’s on the bigger side, and I’ve generally not been attracted to that body type before).
I’ve also been asked (hypothetically) whether she’s someone I’d feel proud or comfortable introducing to friends/family, and I’m honestly unsure about that too, which is adding to my hesitation.
I’m torn between:
- going on a second date to see if anything changes or develops in person, then reassessing
- or ending things now so I don’t lead her on if I already know the attraction isn’t really there
One other thing I noticed (and I’m aware this may be more about me than her) is that I felt slightly self-conscious walking her back to her car, like I was aware of how others might perceive us together. I’ve had some social anxiety in the past, so I’m not sure how much of that is my own insecurity vs a genuine compatibility issue.
It’s been two days since the date and neither of us have messaged yet.
Would appreciate honest thoughts on how people would approach this — especially from people who’ve been in similar situations.
Thanks in advance.