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she broke up with me after 2 months of intense dating and 1 month of relationship (of shich we spent 3 weeks separated due to her family vacation). No fights, no arguments. The time up to the vacation was great and we had good chemistry. She asked me a few days prior to her vacation if i want to be her bf.
10 days into her vacation, she started acting more distant. It was like a roller coaster. Very cute and lovely in the first week, distant in the second. cute 2hr videocall after that, followed by "i miss you so much" and finally the breakup the day after we met in person again.

2 weeks no contact after breakup. I asked her to go for a walk and we talked like roommates, but did not talk about relationship stuff. she said shes happy that i contacted her and told me that we can repeat that.

one week later no contact again. I dont want to be the one whos always running after her. I told her she can contact me also.

i am being told by many people that its not that unlikely, that she will return in some way.

after some research i found patterns of avoidant attachment type in her and anxious in myself.

So my question is, is it likely whe will reach out again? after i lowered the bar during our walk and showed her that im open to contact?

Context:

• we met at a party. no further contact until 6 months later (we live 2 min apart)
• 1st date was awesome, we clicked. hours fly by in a second.
• 2 months of intense dating, multiple times a week, crazy physical chemistry. We went to a club (Before going to the club, we hung out the entire day. But then she said, that next time we should go in a group (before we even went together)), to restaurants, had hangout dates watching movies. After every single meet we had, she texted me how great i am and how awesome every minute with me feels.
• 3 days prior to her big vacation (will separate us by 9hrs time difference for 2 weeks + 1 week in her hometown), she asks me to be her bf. I said yes of course. The next days were perfect and emotional. She sends me texts from her way back home. Everything seems fine
• 1st week of vacation: voice memos everyday. one 1hr videocall, all sweet and flirty. Photos, Videos, "i miss you".
• 2nd week of vacation. Something switched. less contact. no memos, no photos. Nothing. It was strange since there was this sharp decline in contact. We had another call planned, but she seemed to not have any priority for that. when i asked to turn on video, she laughed and hesitated, saying she doesnt want to. The two others in the room laughed as well (she shared a room with her sister and sisters bf). After breakup, she told me that during this week, she smoked weed (knowing im not a big fan of it) and didnt tell me so i wouldnt have a bad impression and she also met some old friend that she didnt tell me about. She insists nothing happened and i kinda trust her, since the weird behaviour started earlier.
• After vacation everything ws back to normal. A cute videocall for 2 hrs. texts, images. all that.
• She told me how much she misses me. That i am going to meet her parents. that we will cook together. and even proposed a trip to a city.
• she met her best friend for 3 days. i got pictures, texts, everything
• The day of our reunion, after 3 weeks separation, she breaks up with me. The reason: i have no love feelings towards you. I can not give you emotionally what you give me. Sorry for being such a disappointment... She was like a different person. totally distant.
• 2 weeks no contact, i saw her and asked for a walk. maybe we can sort things out because we are not stressed anymore. Had a good walk. we talked an laughed. She says "lets do that gain, i am glad you contacted me". The next evening i see her leaving with some guy into the night on a bike.

This hit me hard. The swings. The back and forth. The sudden breakup without even trying to talk about stuff. The hope she gave me in our last walk.

This caused much pain and i cant let go of ruminating about all this. my head is always asking, wth happened. i fell into the AI trap and analyze everything from 3 angles. I try to stop that.

any advice? did you have similar experiences? this is not my first breakup but it felt the most intense since 3 days prior to the breakup she made plans with me for the following week.