u/Advanced-Reindeer894

So...to me sex feels more like an obligation to have, some toll I need to pay when my body reacts a certain way or when my partner reacts a certain way. Like "oh this is happening so now I have to do this and then that".

I do love and want the physical contact, the kissing feels good too, but sex...eh...

Like I enjoy cuddling, just laying in bed naked and watching a movie, or showering together because I enjoy the skin to skin contact and being that close. I just...don't really enjoy what comes with that usually. Like I engage with it because it makes them feel good but that's about it.

I still get hard but like...I generally just take care of that myself. It's...complicated, like I still get aroused and all that stuff, but I just don't really enjoy the act. It feels like I'm forced to do so though or that I have to put up with it if I want a partner. Like I said I enjoy the stuff people generally consider foreplay like the above about showering, kissing, cuddling, etc, I just...don't like the follow up.

I generally forced myself to have sex to feel a part of the community, relate to other guys, or to acquire prestige in the eyes of gay men by having a good body count. The only sex act that I'm kinda on the fence about is oral because I've had some experiences where doing it felt good but most of the time I just get tired if it takes too long.

It's hard to explain, but I feel like I have to do this to get a partner. My last real relationship was strained because he wanted sex more than I did, I liked cuddling with him, being naked in bed together, or showering together. But I...dreaded sex because it felt required, and sometimes he'd get visibly disappointed.

I've read different views saying it means you two are compatible with each other to it just being sexually compatible. It's happened a couple times to me where just their scent, pheromones, something like that just drives me crazy.

Does it mean more than just a simple turn on?

I'm getting mixed results on this one, some say no and that's just an interpretation of relativity and some say yes.

There's this facebook post but I don't know how reliable this is: https://www.facebook.com/groups/physicsisfun109/posts/439121938766656/

I also read that quantum physics essentially violates the notion of externalism or block universe because the future isn't fixed or determined there and that time does flow, which leads to a paradox.

EDIT: Is this a solution to the paradox? https://www.facebook.com/permalink.php?story_fbid=pfbid02n7mftDv57B1urWbtt6VdXUnPn6PUX5tbsBridAaXRS7F8AmYXU11EBpE1FfN65rAl&id=100093648884866

And if eternalism is true then what would that mean for us? Would it imply solipsism?

https://www.quora.com/What-are-some-of-the-greatest-mind-fucks/answer/Pete-Bahba?share=1&srid=Xs9v

Sorry this is based on a quora post and nothing mentioned is a mindfuck like he thinks. But I thought that when you lose sight in one eye you lose depth perception which makes it harder to see in 3d, which makes me think this dude is wrong.

The general post is just that our brains generate a best guess of reality, nothing special there. It's the same on this post too: https://petesbookmarks.quora.com/Virtual-reality-of-consciousness

Though IMO he takes the brain constructing it a bit further to it just being pure imagination and there is nothing going on. But I digress.

But yeah, do we see less 3d with one eye. I've tried this before and I have noticed it, so I'm not sure where he got that idea.