u/Advanced-Eagle4750

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I don't know why but it's the 2nd time I got cheated by my partner when I did everything for them. I never cheated, I was so loyal that I didn't even handshake girls behind her back.

I kept on fulfilling their needs emotionally and physically.

I made food for them, helped , and worked hard to make a better life with them.

I don't look too bad, I look above average, in bed I m good, I make good money, I'm emotionally available, I have always kept my ego aside to save relationships, I kept my partner on priority even before myself. I told them that I m dating to marry, and I we will have constructive relationship if things go bad we will work together to solve it. But they kept destroying and I kept fixing and feel deeper and deeper.

I don't understand why they do this to me, when I did everything right. And on top even after doing everything for them, they later said shit about me,tried to mentally made me so depressed that I had few times tried to end myself. And they have no shame that they did this to someone innocent who was kind to them.

I lost hope in love, not I think I will be able to find coz I think I lost myself.

When I see stories on reddit that how their bf cheated on them, how they physically and mentally abused their gf but still those girl loved them and try to fix things, I feel like crying out like I wish I could have someone who would love me.

I never had someone who truly loved me. I feel, how lucky are those people who have someone in their life who loves them.

So coming back to the title, like what women seek in man to be with them forever and what are some of the things I should look in a women if I want to marry someone. But to be honest, I have really lost the hope that in this life I will be loved, because my 1st gf cheated me so tragically that it took me 3 yrs to get out of that trauma, and the 2nd gf gave me 4 yrs of NARC, she had broken me from everywhere. I am right now 27M, dealing with Narrisitc abuse, but I have recovered a lot. However I think I lost the capability to have relationship again. I can't trust people now. I don't know what I want.

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I don't know why but it's the 2nd time I got cheated by my partner when I did everything for them. I never cheated, I was so loyal that I didn't even handshake girls behind her back.

I kept on fulfilling their needs emotionally and physically.

I made food for them, helped , and worked hard to make a better life with them.

I don't look too bad, I look above average, in bed I m good, I make good money, I'm emotionally available, I have always kept my ego aside to save relationships, I kept my partner on priority even before myself. I told them that I m dating to marry, and I we will have constructive relationship if things go bad we will work together to solve it. But they kept destroying and I kept fixing and feel deeper and deeper.

I don't understand why they do this to me, when I did everything right. And on top even after doing everything for them, they later said shit about me,tried to mentally made me so depressed that I had few times tried to end myself. And they have no shame that they did this to someone innocent who was kind to them.

I lost hope in love, not I think I will be able to find coz I think I lost myself.

When I see stories on reddit that how their bf cheated on them, how they physically and mentally abused their gf but still those girl loved them and try to fix things, I feel like crying out like I wish I could have someone who would love me.

I never had someone who truly loved me. I feel, how lucky are those people who have someone in their life who loves them.

So coming back to the title, like what women seek in man to be with them forever and what are some of the things I should look in a women if I want to marry someone. But to be honest, I have really lost the hope that in this life I will be loved, because my 1st gf cheated me so tragically that it took me 3 yrs to get out of that trauma, and the 2nd gf gave me 4 yrs of NARC, she had broken me from everywhere. I am right now 27M, dealing with Narrisitc abuse, but I have recovered a lot. However I think I lost the capability to have relationship again. I can't trust people now. I don't know what I want.

I am pretty devastated how some companies show that they have openings, no japanese requirement, visa sponsorship etc. but when you apply you get to know it's just a ghost job.

I am not talking about some category 3,4 companies, but I'm talking about category 1,2.

I recently applied from Japan dev at XYZ company, I cross checked about their opening on LinkedIn, their official website and applied.

After a few days they say we are not hiring. Then why is the opening still live? Is it they don't want to be rude that they rejected me or is it just another ghost job.

I don't understand what companies get wasting someone's time.