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I long ago lost 150lbs. I’ve kept it off thankfully. But, unfortunately, I still have the loose skin. Fully clothed you’d never know that it’s there, but I won’t be taking my shirt off anytime soon. I’ve been coming to terms with the fact that despite the fact that I’m now fit, I’ll never have a normal body. It’s almost worse that it’s barely visible because people expect me to look one way and I just can’t do that.

I’m just curious what others have experienced.

I’m wondering how others are coping with and surviving intense loneliness. For context I have had a very hard time connecting with gay men in any form. No dates, hookups, or relationships. That part is understandable. After all, we are not all going to be able to find those things.. but the in ability to make friends is the harder pill to swallow. I don’t fully understand what’s happening here. I have straight friends that I get along with and enjoy spending time, but gay guys are just really hard to meet if you’re not cute.

I have times when I get used to the isolation but lately it’s been harder to deal with. It’s clear that I babe some kind of defect that’s causing this but I’m unsure what it is or if it’s fixable. That uncertainty is maddening.

I’m just wondering how others are dealing with this. I know the lonliness is now an epidemic but that means that a lot of us are having to cope with the situation. How are folks dealing with that situation.