I am writing to ask what my next step should be.. I have found out that my ex is allowing his 9 yr old niece to bathe my 6 yr old and 8 yr old unsupervised. I know these are all curious ages, but my biggest concern is his nephew 11, had assaulted his sister a few years ago by taking photos of her without clothing on.
The parents stated they handled the situation, mom, and grandma who were in the room when the photos were found are both mandated reporters. The mother did take the tablet away the rest of the night, and stated other actions were taken but I still wouldn’t allow any closed doors, or allow my children on another floor without an adult around. I won’t allow them to be on tablets unsupervised etc… my ex and I split and obviously I have no say in this now, but he is allowing his niece to bathe our daughters (who bathe alone here). I asked them if she tries to touch them, and they said she washes their backs… but my oldest daughter seemed uncomfortable and defensive while my youngest daughter got giggly and said “nooooooo” all drawn out.
They know they have four adults they can tell other than me (I have overreacted, the aunt smacked my daughter and I threatened to put my hands on her anyway she did to my daughter. I also told her I would report her for child abuse), I’m heavy on no secrets, and heavy on proper part name. Is involving cps jumping the gun? Do I file for emergency custody? Can I file a parenting time complaint? I’m really not sure what action to take but I asked this to stop and was ignored. I want to protect my babies.
u/Adorable_Library893
LOCATION:Michigan
How long do I actually have to wait for my coparent to pick up the children before I can take the time? It’s his weekend and he was over two and a half hours late from his court ordered time to pick them up stating “I’ll get them when I get them I didn’t even think about getting them today”
I can’t wait around on his time for hours as I have plans and often time work overtime on my time without the kids, I’m currently working a second job when I do not have them. I do have child care for them while I work both jobs and would be thrilled to have them the extra time.
“I’ll get them when I get them” and then tying me up for hours to wait for him so I can’t contact my care, because I don’t know what’s going on or pausing my entire life to wait for him. (I guess what I’m saying is if needed I have a way to keep things moving and functioning with the kids, I always have a plan b)