I’m dreading next weekend. My MIL and SIL are coming to town. For context- my husband’s sister is my age (39F) and she spent the good part of her 20’s and most of her 30’s making really bad decisions and becoming an alcoholic. We are thankful she’s been sober for a couple years but unfortunately the family relationships were damaged badly during her bad decision years and she has yet to take accountability for her actions. Any time she has interacted with my husband it ends badly and so as a result we haven’t seen or spoken to her much in about 10 years.
Last year, she reconciled with her mom. This year, out of the blue, my MIL and SIL reached out to me to ask if they could come see us over Mother’s Day weekend which also happens to be SIL’s 40th birthday weekend. SIL wants to “see and play with” my boys and “catch a ball game”. We love and adore my MIL and don’t get to see her often as she lives across the country. On normal circumstances I would love to host them, go to dinner, play tourist with them etc but I’m really hesitant to be around SIL or even allow my boys around her. Last time I saw her about 8 years ago she was driving around with a bottle of water in her car filled with vodka and she got in a fight with my husband and MIL. And to be honest, the whole situation is making me dread Mother’s Day and I don’t even have anything planned with my own mom yet because everything is so up in the air. Would it be wrong of me to tell them we will see them at my kid’s game but avoid them the rest of the weekend? They are staying in town at a local bed and breakfast.