We canceled the wedding with less than a month before the date. There was no big falling out, no discovery of cheating, no unresolved feelings for one of our exes, nobody objecting at the altar. Just had a fight where one of us suggested maybe we shouldn’t get married right now in the heat of the moment, so we canceled the wedding during the fight. And honestly, it feels like a bit of a relief to have some time to reflect before committing to a lifetime of forever.
At first, the thought of us leaving each other was terrifying. Now, I’m not sure how to move forward in a relationship after a wedding has been canceled. I’m not sure if we are still engaged or are just dating. I’m not sure how to explain to others why we canceled the wedding but aren’t separated. At the same time, it feels like a lot of my trust and emotional connection has been severed. To have such a public cancelation so close to a wedding date injured things between us, and I’m not sure how to repair it … or if we should try to repair it.
My partner is my best friend, but our relationship has experienced intense ups and downs. We both have demanding jobs and our time together is limited, so when we do have things to fight about, tensions build until we see each other and then our fights can be emotionally intense (no physical violence and minimal yelling). However, we’ve also built a life together and the quality of our lives has objectively improved with each other in it. Division of chores, being able to afford housing/etc in a HCOL city, and having company at the end of the day.
TL;DR: Canceled the wedding … is this salvageable?