Not attracted to anyone
I’m 51F. My husband and I split up this December after I learned he had a secret girlfriend. The marriage had been over for many years so it ended now feels like a relief and I’m much happier.
I’ve recently started OLD and I’m finding that I’m not attracted to anyone I’m meeting. I’ve been on like 8 in-person dates and I’m not interested in any of them.
The only attraction I’ve had since my marriage ended was a short fling I had with a 27yo which was absolutely amazing. But it’s since fizzled and I don’t think something like that is likely to come along that often or be likely to last long.
I’m just reflecting on all of these dates and wondering about the future. I don’t think I’m dating too soon after my marriage ending because it was already over so long. So I don’t think that’s the issue. I know we all age but so many of these men seem to be overweight with yellow teeth 😩 I don’t want to be shallow but physical attraction is very important to me. I’ll also say that I’m very independent and don’t “need” a partner — it’s more that it would be nice to have sex again and have someone to do things with.
Just venting and sharing I guess. Does attraction change at this age? Are my expectations unrealistic?