u/Admirable-Meal-2868

So, I’ve always felt bad about calling out of work. I’ve always been able to “do it all”. Not anymore.

Pregnancy has knocked me flat on my back. So, I called out the day after I almost passed out at work due to low blood sugar caused by morning sickness.

Then called out the day after I got home from a trip. Flight was delayed. We landed and then took an Uber home in a storm. And that Uber cost $330 because I got out of the car covered head-to-toe in my own vomit.

Today, I called out. At 1 am, I woke up with abdominal pain and wasn’t able to stand up straight. I brushed it off and went back to bed. Same thing at 3 am and 5 am.

I get up at 6:15 am and sleeping it off didn’t work. I was dizzy with abdominal tenderness and cramping. It wasn’t my usual baseline of uncomfortableness during pregnancy. Something just felt “off” and I could barely walk.

So, I called out. Called my provider. I’m supposed to be drinking 80 oz of water per day. I have a water aversion, so I’m barely hitting 24 oz.

I rested and hydrated. Once I got back up to 32 oz, the cramping subsided and I felt much better. I just feel useless in a way that it was “just” dehydration and that kept me home from work.

But, the abdominal cramping reminded me of my miscarriage less than a year ago. This was exactly how it started, and I couldn’t bear to miscarry at work. I was a wreck.

My husband put in a great way as I was talking about how it was “just” dehydration… “Well, it can also kill you, so I’m happy you didn’t go to work today”.

I tried to make him a sandwich for lunch and he took one look at me and told me to go lay down. He also barred me from doing chores since I do have a history of fainting.

I just feel defeated in a way that it was “just” dehydration that took me out and like the only pregnant woman at work struggling.

And also, there is of course an office mean girl at work who just makes me feel unfit for the job anyways and hasn’t stopped going after me even while pregnant.

Just looking for some support.

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u/Admirable-Meal-2868 — 8 days ago
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I just need some opinions that support that I’m not overreacting. Husband and I go visit FIL and MIL while I’m 18 weeks pregnant. FIL is fine until the last day.

He waits until MIL and husband is out of the room and starts rubbing my upper stomach with his thumb jutting into my breast area. And with a shit-eating grin, states that he “just wanted to see if baby was moving”.

I froze up and nervously laughed. And then we all went to lunch with my husband’s grandma. FIL asks to try my drink. I let him because I ordered a way too big smoothie. Looking back, I should’ve refused.

And then the picture of me, husband, and grandma. FIL centers the lights over my head like a crown and later texts me “you are the princess”.

I’m CREEPED out.

And it’s the fact that he waited until we were alone in those few short minutes. I don’t trust him to be alone with me, let alone baby.

-He won’t be coming unaccompanied to our home like he originally planned. He either comes with MIL or he doesn’t.

-He won’t be allowed in the house until husband is home.

-He will never stay in our home.

-He will never be alone with our children.

-Breastfeeding? He won’t ever see that.

And husband is aware of what happened and thankful I waited to tell him until we were on the plane. Husband is pissed.

Background on FIL: he’s the stepdad. He hated my husband because bio dad was an ex lover of MIL. Treated him terribly in comparison to the other son which was FIL’s. And told my husband starting at a very young age that he would never amount to anything.

FIL has never faced consequences and has miscalculated his place in my life. I have no tolerance for unwanted touching and anyone who treats a child like that.

-He insults husband on property? I’m kicking him out no matter the weather or time

-Last-minute situations where FIL just shows up? Too bad. Go home. You clearly need a chaperone.

I showed my dad the text too and told him about what happened and he was appalled. Husband and I will be calling MIL tonight to discuss it. I have a short temper, and I’m most likely going to be an asshole about it because I’m pregnant and my tolerance for bullshit is a strand away from snapping.

Am I overreacting?

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u/Admirable-Meal-2868 — 16 days ago