I've tried every Dating App and local queer places
Yo,
28 yo lil Belgian queer. I'm obsessed with the idea of finding my boyfriend.
Mostly because past experiences have been hard ; also because it's starting to get long since my last commited relationship.
I wanna settle and have a quieter life. Work is stressfull and i'm already full of hobbies and social life. But I wanna share this with someone.
I struggle trusting men. Bc I want someone emotionally there, intentional, etc ; and also because of past abuse and toxic behaviors.
I get ghosted on hinge, People only want sex on Feeld, Grindr Users seem to have Amnesia (or feel very lazy), and Recon is a no man's land. Tinder has become a self esteem booster. Romeo cringes me.
IRL, I'm going techno parties, hang out in concerts, i'm out going, openly queer, etc.
I don't even crush on anyone anymore cause I feel like men my age are either confused with their desire, already taken or unable to give anything.
2 side notes : i'm Poly (and have a lover who's not a boyfriend and cannot become one cause he doesn't want to)
I'm considered rather attractive even tho I'm not masc and esp rather broke.
So my questions are :
how did you find love ?
should I try to give up, forget about it and keep on banging my neighbours once in a while even tho they will not show up in case of need ?