Can you be queer if you’re straight? 31M
I’ve always been confused about my sexuality, and it’s hard for me to understand it sometimes. Sexually I am very much attracted to women, and not men. Emotionally though, I feel I connect much easier with queer men sometimes, but it’s honestly scary to be open.
I grew up in a country where being LGBT is illegal and very much taboo in society with zero safe space.
That said, I’m not really that interested in men, like men would be flirty with me and I find that pretty revolting, even though I enjoy their company when they’re not flirting? I also try not to give them a lot of attention so don’t mistake it as me being interested. I think about this a lot and it’s exhausting. At an emotional level I feel the gay vibes honestly, but I’m just not interested in pursuing it. It feels kinda forced.
With women, I’m sexually attracted to them and have crushes and have romantic interest in them but it doesn’t feel the same. I don’t know how to explain it?
Can anyone relate to these extremely complicated feelings?