Seeking advice for trying to have a conversation with someone who doesn’t realize what I do? That lives in another state. ‘41M’ ‘36F’
So it’s Mother’s Day. My situationship lives in another state with our son. So this weekend I took time off and came this weekend to spend time with both of them. So this past weekend all she has been saying it’s Mother’s Day weekend. And this weekend is about me. So I fly to her so I can spend time with her and our son. I cook dinner I fix some issues on the new house her and her parents are moving to. So on Saturday, she does her routine she goes to the gym without any issues. When she gets back we have breakfast and get ready to go and spend time with together. And all she has been saying it’s Mother’s Day weekend. This day is about me. Mind you two years ago she decided to leave to another state with our son. I didn’t agree with it but I tried to express my concern and she relates well it’s what a best for me and my son. So we end up going to the mall so that I can get her the gift she wants for Mother’s Day. We go to a mall and our son who is five is acting like a five year old. And then she gets mad and says ohh you guys are making me feel lonely. I wanted to go here and try on a few things and he is complaining. And then said why don’t you guys go hang out alone. We are still in the mall and she just walks away ahead of us. While in the car she stayed quiet and then when our son asked her mommy can we hang out. She said you guys can go hang out together without mommy.
So I leave with our son and take him away so she can spend time alone. I went to speak to him about his behavior and said that sometimes mommy needs space.
Make does raise our son alone and with the help of her parents. But she constantly throws that in my face. But I try to fly back and forth to alleviate the stress. I try my hardest. Taking time off and going spending airfare which right now is not cheap.
And then to top it off we go to the movies alone and then started saying things like I’m an asshole. But when I stand up for myself after being disrespected I’m the a-hole for speaking up and how dare I speak to a woman like that.
Am I missing something. All for the while she tell everyone else that I’m the problem. Anybody have some criticism