TL;DR: I’ve been in a relationship with my boyfriend for almost 7 months long distance, we would constantly argue about communication, and we have been having issues a few times a week for months. Other than that, he treats me really well, and I don’t know if I should leave him or not.
For context, my boyfriend and I have been together for almost 7 months, he is a senior in HS and I’m a freshman in college. We started dating at the beginning of my freshman year.
We have gotten into a lot of disagreements about communication (because of us being long distance), as well as both of us just setting boundaries with each other throughout the relationship. I think that’s normal, but disagreements have been coming up a few times a week for the past 5 months of us being together. We would both set a boundary/share something we want the other to improve on initially, but the same issues would keep arising and it would become another long discussion about the same thing.
I’ve found myself becoming really drained of this mentally since it’s been happening; I would go to sleep crying most nights and would stay up late to work things out. While our discussions always end positively, the same issues would just come up again, and the process would repeat. I know that it’s not good for me mentally, and I’m sure it’s not for him either. When we see each other in person, we are fine. It’s just us being far apart that makes it bad.
Other than that, he treats me incredibly well, which makes me scared to leave him. I know what it’s like to have been hurt in the past and I’m just scared of doing that to him too. Recently, I’ve noticed his texting tone change and he’s been kind of dry while I try to keep our convos going, but it makes me not even want to put the effort in anymore if he’s not doing it. Overall, the relationship has just been making me feel bad, and I feel like I just need time for myself to navigate my needs alone. I’m scared to break that to him, and I don’t know how, and I’m not sure how I would even do it or if I’m 100% on board with doing it at all.
If anyone has been through something similar, or has any advice, please feel free to share.