u/Additional_Muffin_86

To start with circumcision has basically no benefits, I don’t care what WHO told you or what a doctor told you there is literally no reason medical to do it.

It has never and was never done for medical reasons, circumcision is a purely cosmetic surgery done to children with the idea of making their genitals look “correct” which is ridiculous and boarders pedophilia.

RIC got popular in America through Michigan and the Kelloggs family because they deemed it was a way to sterilise men to get them to view sex less and focus on family and business.

Sex culture in America has been completely ruined by circumcision to the point were it’ll simply never recover.

Circumcision is and will always be genital mutilation and people who do it to their infants need to be shamed more.

If this is the wrong place or not what this place is for I can move my question but I’m gonna shoot anyways.

Personally I’m uncircumcised but I’ve been dating this guy for a while now, a bit into our relationship he got circumcised for medical reasons and we both agree this was a massive mistake and restoring it has been discussed.

Is there a point of no return for restoration or is it possible for any cut? Because he basically has nothing left and has an incredibly tight cut.

Also does it help pleasure reduction caused by circumcision? Genuinely curious can’t find a lot about this stuff online for some reason.

And last question is it painful?

Like I said if it’s not the right space I’ll move on.

I ‘22M’ started dating this guy ‘25M’ about 18 months ago, we’ve been together for well over a year now and I’d say things are going pretty well. We’re about to plan moving in together and I don’t see our relationship going anywhere.

When we started dating I made it very clear that I found it attractive that he was uncut, not that I have anything against circumcised men it’s just I’m from Peru, I’m uncut myself and I know how to work that equipment. I’d been in America for a while and only slept with circumcised men as the area I’m from is incredibly white and there’s not really anyone not white for a few miles except for me. I’ve slept with a lot of people in the local gay scene and he’s the only uncut guy I’ve found within a 15 mile radius.

His foreskin was long, thick and was always a massive part of our foreplay and just overall sex routine. I’ve never noticed problems with it and his personal hygiene is a level I’ve never seen in a man before.

In December of this year i went back home to Peru while my sister was in her last weeks of pregnancy and spent almost 2 months there. When i got home i was quick to tear his clothes off and make up for lost time but to my surprise he no longer had a foreskin.

I’m not saying i have any say in what he does to his body but it was weird he never discussed this with me. I wouldn’t have stopped him it’s his body he can do what he wants but we spoke every day while I was in Peru and he didn’t bring this up once. We even spoke the day he was cut and he didn’t think to mention it.

My concern now is sex has changed a lot in the 5 month since he was circumcised. He used to be incredibly easy to jerk off and lasted a respectable amount of time but not too long, now it feels like I’m rubbing a plank of wood for what sometimes can be over 15 minutes. Even with lube it feels like a marathon to get him across the finish line. His head and shaft dried out very quickly and are now almost completely desensitised making anything but oral impossible without lube.

We haven’t had actual sex in over a month because he says his circ needs to heal more so we exclusively get each other off with oral now. When we were having sex he’d struggle to stay hard, get angry and ask for a blowjob.

I just don’t know where to go from here, if I’m being honest it’s the worst circumcision I have ever seen. It’s way too tight and it looks smaller. I don’t know why he did it but I know he regrets doing it. There’s genuinely nothing to restore so that’s not an option, they cut his frenulum off and took most if not all of his inner foreskin.

How do I actually navigate this? Do I tell him he made a bad choice or just leave it be and see if I can make it work. I’ve asked how I can help but he doesn’t know either and I can’t help if he won’t tell me how.