Hello all!
So me (24f) and my husband (25m) have been together for 9 years, married for 4 months. A lot has happened since last year. We got engaged in October 2025 and decided to get legally married in December of 2025 because we were in the process of buying a house. We bought our first house February 2026.
Me and my husband have been talking about kids since before we lived in our apartment (we lived there together for 4 years). Our goal has always been to get married, buy a house, and have a kid afterwards. We've accomplished the first two goals. We are financially stable.
I feel ready to start trying for a baby. I asked my husband the same thing, he said he's ready. We were casually talking with my family about the topic of trying to get pregnant this year, and some family members are opposed to the idea. They think we should wait, we should live our life, travel, etc. And while I take their thoughts and opinions into consideration, I don't want to wait. This is something I want and I'm mentally ready for. It just makes me a little upset because my aunt and uncle, the main ones who are opposed to having kids this early, don't have kids themselves. They've been together for 15 years, got married 5 years ago and are in their 40s. My aunt has always wanted kids, my uncle has been the one telling her to wait and to wait. When they got married, she asked again and he shot down the idea of them having kids because "he's too old". So my aunt has to live with the fact that she will never have kids, because my uncle refuses now that they're married. He basically led her on, promising her that they will have kids but then breaking that promise after getting married. I bring this up, not because I think my husband will do the same thing, but the fact that THEY are the ones telling me to wait and live my life as if my life will be over when I have kids, makes me upset.
Anyway, I just shrugged them off and said "okay". I spoke to my husband privately and asked him how he felt about it. He said being asked to wait from them is crazy. But he also said that maybe we should wait until the end of the year to try and get pregnant. And I told him honestly, I don't want to wait that long, I rather start trying in July so we can potential have a spring baby (I don't want to give birth in the summertime if I can help it). He reluctantly agreed, but he seemed hesitant. I made it very clear to him that this is a two person decision, I will not force him to agree to this timeline if he feels as though he isn't ready. Then he told me that it's something he rather just let happen then to dwell on it. I told him I have no idea what that means but I'm not on board. I need him to be 100% sure. We left the conversation at that. Its been a few days now and we haven't discussed it further. I'm starting to think that what my family, specifically my aunt and uncle said, is getting to him and it's making me upset.
I'm gonna wait until after this weekend to bring the topic up again (we're celebrating my husbands birthday). But what do you guys think? My mom is really excited about us possibly getting pregnant this year. Same for one of my sisters, the other one is saying we should wait. I feel like its never really a "right" time to have kids. I feel like as long as you're financially stable and have a loving partner who shares the same goals as you, that's all that matters, right?