u/Additional-Sweet829

So I need opinions because this situation genuinely confused me 😭

A family relative introduced me to this guy. We were messaging for around 2 months, asking me loads of questions about marriage, life, general stuff etc. Bearing in mind, he lives in a different city in the UK.

Eventually we met up once. The date was alright, just casual conversation trying to get to know each other. I didn’t think much of it because personally I can’t decide if I want to marry someone after meeting them ONE time. I thought maybe after meeting a few more times I’d know better.

Anyway, after I got home he messages me asking for my dad’s number because he wants to meet my family. Straight away. I told him respectfully that we literally only met once and I think we should meet a few more times first because I barely know him yet. To me that felt really intense and a bit weird.

He agreed at first… then literally a week later he asks again for my dad’s number and sends me this long paragraph about how he’s serious and wants to get married to me Jan 2026.

Mind you:
- I’ve only met him ONCE
- He has never called me, not even once
- We only message

I basically told him he needs to be realistic because what exactly is the rush? I barely know you 😭

The whole thing started giving me the biggest ick and honestly just confused me. Am I overreacting or does this seem weirdly rushed to everyone else too?

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u/Additional-Sweet829 — 6 days ago

I’m a Somali girl in the West who just wants to settle down someday, but I honestly don’t even know how people make it happen.

I’ve just turned 28, and while I’ve been focusing on myself, I keep asking… what’s next? It feels like everyone else figured it out, and I’m just stuck in the same place.

I struggle to meet people, and my workplace doesn’t really help — there aren’t many Somali people around me, so it’s hard to even connect culturally. I just don’t know where people are meeting good Somali men these days.

Lately I’ve just been feeling a bit lost about it all.

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u/Additional-Sweet829 — 15 days ago