u/Additional-Draft34

I’ve recently started wearing my natural hair out. For context i was natural for most of my life up until about 5 years ago when i started wearing wigs and straight styles. I even had multiple perms at one point and was fine with it because i thought having my hair straight was better. Recently im learning to love my natural hair again and so i’ve stopped using heat and cut all the damage off. I’ve been doing low tension styles with no gel just moisturizer, oil, a leave in and sometimes a twisting cream. Today i wore 2 braids that weren’t nappy at all. My hair is detangled and moisturized and feels very soft. Additionally i recently washed it so it is clean. But my mom insist that my hair looks a mess and is nappy and unpresentable. She’s been saying things about my hair all week referring to it as “slave hair” and saying it looks like i just rolled out of bed. My mom is natural however she only wears her hair in slick ponytails and buns and sometimes but rarely an afro. The things she’s saying about my hair is hurting me and making me second guess myself. I’ve tried to explain to her that this is my hair and it’s just the way it grows out of my head but she insist that it’s unpresentable. It’s making me feel like i’m doing this natural hair thing wrong and I don’t know what to do or what to think. Am i being to defensive and instead should i be accepting of my moms critique’s?