I don't even know what I'm hoping to get out of this. I am 28 weeks pregnant with my second child and I have placenta previa.
Because of that this pregnancy has been very challenging. I have a 2 year old at home and I'm not allowed to lift anything over 10 pounds so I can't pick up my toddler.
Luckily for me, I work from home so the placenta previa restrictions haven't really affected work. I have however been working overtime to earn more money before baby arrives.
I also care for my toddler full-time. MIL and BIL help me for the first half of the day because I can't pick up my two year old. But I'm still doing the majority of the work that isn't lifting while working a 50 hour work week.
I am still handling the majority of the household chores aside from anything that involves me lifting more than 10 pounds. I cook breakfast lunch and snacks for myself and toddler during the day, my husband handles dinner.
The issue: I feel like I am overworking myself. I am working overtime at work. I am trying to keep up with toddler and housework and my husband is passive aggressive about it instead of supportive. He will help me but he makes it a huge hassle.
I will start a task and he'll tell me that I don't have to do the dishes he will. And then a week goes by. So I obviously do the dishes. He once again sees me doing dishes and says he was about to do them. I get frustrated because he doesn't follow through with what he will say he will do. The dishes are just one example.
I usually have to ask him to do something 3-4 times before it will actually get done. And those are little tasks. Anything bigger is more like months of asking.
Today we got into an argument and he told me all I do is complain and nag him. I got really upset by this and don't understand why he thinks that. I also don't understand how he thinks thatan insult against me. Sir, your wife is 7 months pregnant, why should I be in the position to have to nag you? To do dishes nonetheless.
I am the one who vacuums, I am the one who does laundry, picks up around the house, dusta, cleans the windows, wipes the tables, cleans up toys, makes the bed. Does the dishes.
Today I tried to explain to him that I need additional help and it's important I don't overexert myself because of the hemorrhaging risk.
He scoffed and acted like I was being extreme and dramatic for saying I could bleed out. I just feel like he's not taking the risks seriously here.
He told me that I am ungrateful for everything he does and it makes him want to blow his brains out.
I left the house after that comment. I drove to the local park to cry in my car because I just don't know what to do.
I feel so hormonal and trapped. I'm so afraid of going through c section recovery with someone who minimizes my pain and discredits the efforts I put in around the house.
Help