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So keep in mind we’re all older teens and this is all silly situations, I’m aware of it. I just want other peoples’ opinions on this. I plan to talk to them about it soon. I’m just not sure if I’m being silly to feel like this? Because I know it’s not that deep but it’s still weird as we’re all good friends. At least there are no big problems that I know of.
(Please keep in mind english is not my first language so sorry for any mistakes)
So in the last weeks, three of my friends—we’ll call them Milly, Will and Caro—have been getting closer. Honestly, the rest of us don’t care because it’s normal to have some closer friends. But it’s starting to feel like they just don’t wanna hang out with us that much anymore.
It’s just a lot of things have been piling up in the last two weeks. I’ve talked to two other people in the group about it (we’ll call them Amy and Kira) I’ll try to explain and enumerate some of the things we’ve noticed and how we feel about this.
For some better context, Milly, Will and Caro all live in walking/biking distance of each other so it’s easier for these three to hangout after school. Meanwhile, Amy, Kira and me all live far from each other and those three.
We also all share a location app for safety and to see who’s at school already,etc.
Also, Caro is on a different maturity level than the rest of us. There has been multiple situations where she felt rejected by some of us hanging out without her, even though we’ve had multiple conversations with her about it before. We’ve told her it doesn’t mean we don’t like her if we do something without her, etc. Basically trying to calm her worries/anxiety as it’s just that—anxiety. Adding to that, she’s very ‘protective’/‘possessive’ of Milly.(This all will be relevant for later on)
Here is the stuff that’s been piling up:
At first they were just hanging irl out afterschool, which nobody minds because we understand wanting to hang out and they live close.
Then there was a weekend where they all hung out at Milly’s house for a whole weekend. Which again, was fine. They wanted to do something together again. I think they could’ve made the effort to invite us as it’s the weekend and we could’ve drove somewhere to hang out, but I understand them wanting to stay the three of them.
Then last week, at school, they talked about a sleepover they were going to have. From this, we asked what they were talking about and we learned that they had planned a sleepover for the 3 of them this weekend. Again, it’s fine, but we feel like it’s starting to be a lot. (When I say we, I mean Amy, Kira and I—there are other people in the friend group but I haven’t talked to them about this as I don’t think it’s pertinent since I am planning to have a conversation either way) Also, this week they kept talking about being excited and that it would be such a good time.
Now this isn’t related to the three of them but I believe it’s worth mentioning. We call in our group chat almost everyday (no one is pressured to come in the call if they don’t want to). The other day, Milly was feeling down and Will went over to her house to hug her and cheer her up. Caro saw they were together and joined on the big group chat call. Her voice was shaky (like she was about to cry) and she said that she wanted to hangout outside but she couldn’t bc Milly and Will were together. I asked her how she knew that and she replied (like i mentioned) that she saw on the app. After that, she just left the call.
Later, they send pics of Will in our group chat so I deduced they were in their own call (which immediately seemed weird as Milly was feeling super down and said she wouldn’t call)
I talked to Milly after that, as I was worried about her (she had told me she felt down but she felt very invasive in her answers to my questions as I was trying to figure out what was wrong. So I texted her bc I wanted to tell her I was there for her, knew she was with Will but that I wanted to be there for her too if she needed to talk,etc). Anyway, we ended up talking about Caro. Milly told me Caro (in their 3 people group chat) said that she was having suicidal thoughts and wanted to call but not in the big group chat. Again, this is totally understandable to me. Only thing that’s rubbing me the wrong way is Milly was literally crying in Will’s arms in the call, and Caro insisted on staying in the call the whole time while talking about anything else (like matching bracelets).
To me, this feels like Caro felt rejected and wanted to be apart of Milly and Will’s alone time. But I also don’t want to not believe that Caro was having suicidal thoughts because it’s something serious and that I personally went through.
(For anyone concerned about this, Milly and I talked to adults because we both agreed that Milly had enough going and wasn’t equipped to help Caro with this. (Whether true or not, it’s not that important because she needs help either way) Adults talked to Caro about it and she should get help. This happened today though so idk what happened exactly yet lmao)
Anyway, they’ve been calling on their own group chat more and more this week. For example, tonight they told us they were going to come on call with the rest of us in the big group chat but they never came. I texted in the big group chat to ask if they were ever going to come and they all replied that they would tomorrow, with Milly saying she ‘was doing her own stuff’.
As I’m very close with Milly and we tell each other literally everything, I asked her if they were for real all doing their own stuff or if they were calling in their private group chat. She said they were calling in their own group chat because Caro didn’t want to call in the big group.
Now at this point I’m just mad because why are y’all lying/being deceptive about it? I’m not sure what to think about this. I don’t mind that they want to hang out only them, but why lie about it? Just a message saying ‘We’re calling just us the rest of the night but we can call in this group tomorrow for sure’ would be better than lying about it. Nobody has to state a reason. Although it would probably raise questions like ‘did we do something?/is everything okay?’, I still believe it would be better.
Please share your own opinions and advice on this.
Also help on how to approach this topic is welcomed as well. Thank you for reading :)
Any amount would be greatly appreciated!!
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