Am I wrong for telling my friends partner about their cheating
Am I for telling my friend’s fiancé she cheated before their wedding?
I (22F) was in a very close friendship with two other girls, “Grace” (24F) and “Sofia” (24F). I met Grace in nursing school and later Sofia became part of our group. We were extremely close and told each other everything. Because of that, we all knew intimate details about each other’s relationships, mistakes, and personal lives.
Grace is supposed to get married next year, but throughout her relationship she cheated on her fiancé multiple times and openly told Sofia and me about it. Their relationship has also always been chaotic and toxic. They constantly fought, broke up, got back together, and there were multiple physical altercations between them.
The last incident was really bad. Hair was pulled, belongings were thrown out, and there were bruises afterward. Grace has also put her hands on her fiancé before and justified it by saying things like, “Ask him what made me do that.” Sofia and I had repeatedly told her how unhealthy the relationship was, but nothing ever changed.
After the most recent fight, Sofia and I decided to distance ourselves from the friendship because the constant drama, screaming phone calls, violence, and emotional stress became too much for us.
Not long after, Grace’s fiancé contacted us asking questions about rumors that Grace had cheated. We initially tried to stay out of it, but they kept pressing because they said they deserved to know the truth before marrying her. Eventually, we told them everything we knew.
Grace had cheated on girls trips, at bars, at a frat party, and with someone from her past. When confronted, she denied everything at first and accused her fiancé of being crazy. Eventually she admitted to parts of it. Later during another argument, her fiancé mentioned details only Sofia and I would know, so Grace realized we were the ones who told.
Now everything has completely exploded. Grace says we betrayed her and that real friends keep secrets no matter what. She unfollowed/blocked us on everything, and this all happened about a week ago so I’ve honestly been walking on eggshells ever since.
What makes it worse is that now, out of spite for us telling her fiancé the truth, Grace is threatening to expose things Sofia and I did during our “party girl era” that could seriously damage our current relationships. She basically thinks because we exposed her cheating, she now has the right to retaliate by airing out old things from our past.
I understand why she feels betrayed, especially because some of the cheating happened a while ago and we stayed quiet for too long. But with them actively planning a wedding, plus the cheating and physical abuse, I genuinely felt like her fiancé deserved to know before legally tying themselves to her.