u/AdUnusual9783

I’ve been thinking about something in my relationship and could use some perspective. Recently, a few comments and situations have been sticking with me more than I expected. First, he’s mentioned that he likes blondes and he “prefers” bigger boobs, which made me feel a little self conscious since I’m brunette and pretty small chested, idek if I’m an A lol. There was also a moment when he was scrolling on Instagram and a model popped up with her ass out and he said “you wish you had an ass like that.” I actually laughed it off at the time and didn’t feel bothered in the moment. Most recently, we were watching Love Island and he said that out of all the girls, he’d pick the blonde, and then asked me which guy I’d pick. I said none, but I think that comment stuck with me more than I realized. On top of that, I noticed he has another TikTok account where he follows a lot of girls, 300+ all blondes with bigger boobs and bodies that look pretty different from mine. What made it hit a little harder is that a lot of them aren’t celebrities or influencers, just regular college girls posting with their friends. Personally, I know none of these things are necessarily a big deal, and I understand that everyone has preferences and finds different people attractive. I also don’t want to come across as controlling or like I’m trying to tell him what he can and can’t do. But overall, it’s been making me feel a bit insecure and question how he sees me, which I don’t like. He’s a really good boyfriend and I do feel like he cares about me, we’ve only been dating a little over a month and I am his first girlfriend so that says a lot. I just want to figure out how to handle these feelings in a healthy way and whether this is something worth bringing up, or something I should work through on my own. I’d really appreciate any advice on how to approach this thoughtfully. Again I am not trying to come off as crazy/controlling I understand EVERYONE has fantasies:)