He claims he was asking his friend (a younger coworker he had described as slutty) about her perspective on cheating and says nothing happened - even though he continues to say he is trying to find someone to hook up with.
there's a 2am message from her later the same night asking for help for her uber home... they had each others numbers and he was texting me that he missed me while also texting her this stuff. even if nothing happened to me its pretty clear he is fishing to see if she would hook up with him and that hurts so bad.
He is quite angry telling me I am delusional and overreacting and keeps making me feel insane and like I am abusing him for having being upset or not believing him.
There were "wyd" messages to her every day we werent together since that date too but he claims he is like that with all his friends, but I think its all because he is upset and embarrassed I found the messages and is trying to spin stuff now to save face.
i feel like my heart has been ripped out of my chest
edit
Im female, I worded it confusingly.
I saw the messages because he was using an older phone of mine while his was broken.
We have broken up but he has been trying to tell me it was innocent and he was naive - but he has also been insulting my intelligence for saying I cant trust him anymore and claiming I am being cruel by not wanting to try to figure things out because nothing came of it.
He is very convincing and I do love him a lot but this couldn't be clearer to me, so I just need some 3rd part perspectives to make sure I am not somehow crazy and that this is as devastating as jt comes across. I havent slept or eaten much so it's difficult for me not to mix between rage and pure grief over losing him and losing trust in people in general